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I used to walk in Gazzam Lake Park with Rosie. There was rarely anyone there, just me and Rose Goldston. I would let her off the leash and she would bound forward ecstatically always coming back around to make sure I was following and then veering off again. She was so joyful. We would do the whole rondelay*, three miles or so.
I went in yesterday by myself, looking for respite from my caregiving responsibilities. I went to Father Rock, an enormous bit of metamorphic, granitic, whatever stone, 15 feet high and as wide sitting in a clearing surrounded by pine trees deposited by I glacier I think. I called it Father Rock after my Dad during a tumultuous time in my life when my daughter was dying, and I was coming undone.
So here I am again. I leaned back into it’s sheer face and just took a little time. The thought popped into my head, I have a rock inside me. I am a rock. I don’t need a daddy. I am my own father.
Nature is a wonderful teacher, isn’t it? Rock hangs around forever, seedlings grow and become tall trees, ferns are ancient, 300 million years old. Patience I say, like the Beatles, all things will pass, be here, where you are, ground yourself on this beautiful old earth.
Find joy in the real and let go of “how long will Rob be disabled, when will things get better, where should I move if I need to for Rob, worry, worry worry. Not to say I don’t need to do a little thinking and planning. I can’t live like the grasshopper forever, but when I have an opportunity to rest, take it, don’t waste it. Play the fiddle and look around. People have survived worse.
I felt better gradually. I thought, own your rock, honey. Own your rock.
I was distracted as a dog raced by on the trail, followed by a hysterical owner screaming “Come to Mama, Joey”, over and over again.
Own your rock I thought and smiled. Absurd.
*rondelay—a simple song repeated over and over.
If you’ve forgotten how to kick back here’s a good example(see above).