I have been binge reading. One book after another after another. Light stuff, heavy stuff, difficult, easy and confusing.
People of all colors and ages. Stupid characters, smart but emotionally stupid characters. People who are so fucked up that it’s amazing they are ambulatory.
I’ve been reading so much that one book flows into another until I stop for a breath and then another and wonder, what am I avoiding? What’s going on here?
All of us, fictional characters and real characters are trying to figure it out. What is going on? What is the meaning of this? How do we discover who we are or is it all about discovering who we aren’t?
When I was in London the first time I was about 18 or 19. I was all by myself having finished a study course at the University of Edinburgh. I traveled down to London to begin a European adventure. I was terribly alone and anxious and didn’t know what to do with myself. To cover up my cluelessness, I donned bright clothes and put on a lot of makeup and went out in the streets.
I thought if I looked together, I’d be together. But I was empty and my insides felt like a winter storm with high winds and bleak skies. I was terrified of being alone, and I didn’t know how not to be alone. I don’t think I knew how to connect with people outside of a context if you know what I mean. I needed to be rescued but help was not going to come from outside of me.
The men or boys who tried to get my attention were all just on the make. I suppose if I was being honest I looked like I was on the make too but nothing could have been further from the truth.
I needed my mother. I needed my family. I was terrified, and, I was too young and too ashamed of being young, to sit myself down and say “Hey, what’s going on?” “What do I need right now?”
As I got older, I got used to being frightened and keep my wits about me even so. At a younger age, I had no wits to gather. I was witless. I was in a million pieces. I didn’t know I didn’t know. I had lived in books so long with such passion, that my resiliency, my mastery was fictional.
After a very long night, I got myself to the train station and left for Italy where I was to meet my friend Jeannie. I still had a number of strange detours along the way, was rescued by an older woman who fed me tripe from a can and let me sleep at her apartment in Rome.
A couple of days later I met up with my friend. I considered her with disdain as she was petite and sparky and lacked my sarcastic ways. I had no idea that she was already a full blown person whereas I, who pretended competency, when faced with real situations, didn’t have a clue.
What has started me on this rant? I suppose it is this book I just read, Trust Exercise. I didn’t know what to make of this book. It was maddening because it deals with a time in our lives when we all act “as if” we get it, and most of us don’t. I am long past that age, but there must be some vestiges in me, under the layers of age and maturity that still vibrate to those times.
I still remember. I can travel back to that time so long ago when shame at being young needed to be hidden under a mantle of mastery. I remember that girl, and I was a young girl, not a woman yet. A dreamy unreal girl in the real world.