I’m coming out. I’m dropping the curtain, telling the truth, lifting the veil.
I am old, best beloved. I am old. There, I said it. Not only do I say it, I embrace it. I am aged. I am over the hill. In fact, I’m over a few hills. I am lucky to have survived.
Now I can hear the hectoring, lecturing voices —: “you aren’t old, 70 is the new 40, you look great, you’re only as old as you feel …blah, blah, blah”. Shut up. Attitude is no replacement for reality.
I feel old. My head aches, my fingers seize up at odd moments, my hearing is going and occasionally I stoop. So what? I am old. I embrace my infirmities. I earned them and I earned a few more I don’t have yet.
I worked at a school for bad, weird boys in Redmond many years ago. I shouldn’t call them that. They had had terrible things happen to them, done to them and then they just continued to do horrible, bad, things to others. But that’s not the story.
One day at the end of the school day we were waiting in front of the bus for the boys to board and get the fuck away. Two of the boys started a vicious fight and then they teetered into a rather deep ditch at the side of the road. The bus driver was yelling “what are you going to do? I don’t have the rest of the afternoon to wait.”
The male school teachers just looked at each other. I yelled out “What do you want us to do?” No one responded. They were a lame lot. Then inspiration hit.
I looked across at one of the young women who worked there. We nodded at each other, and jumped in the ditch. Boy, did that fight break up quickly. They didn’t want to be throwing punches with this young woman who they loved in there and they certainly didn’t want to be trapped in a ditch with an old broad like me laying on top of them.
The older I get, the less I hold onto my pride. I mean, I have certain standards. I don’t deny that. But age confers a kind of freedom to be who you are. I welcome that freedom. I become myself.
Why do we have to deny our age? Is it because we fear death so much? Death is always right around he corner. Anyone can tell you that. We’re born, we age, we die. What we do in between is important, very important, a life well lived and all that, but we die. Like a pair of well worn shoes, eventually our soles give out, our toes break out the front and our utility is used up.
Okay, I know, I know, I’ve created a simile and now I have to live with it. My soul will never give out, but my uppers are shot. I can wear them a good few more years, but decline is, without a doubt, setting in. Oh well, they’ve taken me a lot of great places, and done a few great things. They’ve filled with tears and blood and sweat and more laughter than you can ever imagine. They are big shoes. They are full of memories and wonderful people. I embrace them.
I embrace my age. I embrace myself. You do you.
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