Chris and I have been talking about aging, being claustrophobic, fearing Parkinson’s like our Mom. As we talked, we both cried, thinking about our Mom trapped in her body, trapped in her house.
Mom’s end was not pretty but she was always game. She’d always show her game face. What she endured in private we cannot know. She never talked about it. We never asked.
Is that the best way to go?
I guess no one wants to listen to unceasing bellyaching but can’t we at least acknowledge how hard it is to give up our autonomy? Can’t we at least acknowledge that and then slip the mask back on?
I hope I gave my Mom some comfort but I will never know that. I know what she gave me. I visited her once at the end of summer. She was in a wheelchair, and she had noticed that the blackberries were just busting out on the branches and she wanted to pick them. We went down in the elevator and I pushed her out on the little road that went past their condo. I pushed her as far into the bushes as I could without hurting her and we picked and ate and laughed.
When the colander was full, we retraced our steps into their apartment. We made a blackberry cobbler and ate it warm with ice cream.
Life is dark but it is also funny and weird and wonderful. Darkness throws the light into relief. Or vice versa.
Here’s a few little blackberries to keep you company while we wait for the real ones to set and ripen.
Makes your mouth water doesn’t it?