So Kate got well and they all lived happily ever after.
You take a river, a small free flowing river and you throw in a few rocks, a dead tree or two, and its’ course is changed. You take a plant that grows straight and tall and you throw a little something in its way and it bends, it contorts to the changing circumstances.
You take a person, you throw a lot of shit in her way and she changes—-she bends, she twists, she survives, she definitely survives, but differently.
We are all changed.
I can only speak for myself. These years have changed me. Part of me has not come back. I wonder if I will ever come back. What has anorexia done to me? It has made me sadder for sure. I am worn out. Like an old t-shirt. I am very soft, a bit bedraggled, stained for sure.
I don’t know if I will ever come back. What does that even mean? After all, I am twenty years older so maybe it’s just age. I don’t think so. I was always pretty resilient. Has my get up and go, got up and went? All I know is that when people seem to want something affirmative, faith filled and delighted about Kate’s recovery, I feel trapped by expectations. I can give a glib answer or I can be real.
I am delighted to hug Kate and feel her whole again under my hands and arms. Physically she is now back. It is not Kate who I doubt has risen from the dead; it is me.
When Betsy died, my parents had the right to die a little bit with her. What happens if the child who was to die, lives?
I am afraid I left a lot of rubber in the road.